Moving in together — for better or worse! In many couple relationships, there comes a time when one partner raises the question of moving in. Living together may seem a natural step to that person, especially if they’ve been a couple for a long while. This is serious turning point.
Sure, getting a new mattress to share is a good start, but there’s way more to consider when you must change some of your previous daily routines, and instead must adapt to the habits of another person. I repeat: You’ll have to adapt ..
. and the same goes for your new live-in partner. Gender, in such cases, doesn’t make a big difference to the realities and changed behaviours involved when two people have agreed to live in the same home space.
Here are some tips on moving in together to help you start the process: 1. Discuss the changes together, without seeking others’ support as your guide. State exactly which changes in location and/or lifestyle are considered essential to both of you.
If this causes a major row due to differing expectations, take time to discuss more deeply and realistically, the whole matter of cohabiting further. If the conversation goes awry, talk to a counsellor together, on at least two separate occasions. It should give you both the time to think clearly about your own decision, plus the future.
2. The next step is to agree on the location and actual interior (meaning, number of bedrooms, etc.) of where you’ll move together.
Then, discuss what each of you wi.
