A woman divided Redditors after asking whether her husband should have remembered an important event in her life all on his own — or if she should have reminded him. In a recent post on the popular “Am I The A**hole?” subreddit , the woman explained that she was a busy Phd student with a paying job on the side. The issue with her husband came up over her confirmation seminar, a final step in the Phd process, when a panel of professors announce whether or not she has officially earned her doctorate.
“I told him confirmation was rapidly approaching and he asked if he could come to the presentation. I told him I wasn’t sure but would ask. Then the university sent out my presentation details email with a zoom link.
I forwarded it straight to him,” she wrote on Reddit. A few days later, she asked if he’d read it, to which he replied, “No.” She later asked again, and he still hadn’t seen the message, the wife said.
“At this stage I realized that not only had he not read the email but he hadn’t bothered to enquire about the presentation. Unfortunately this is fairly normal for him. He doesn’t often enquire about me much about me, ask me many questions about my day etc and I admit I’m tired of being ignored,” she wrote.
She told Reddit she was well aware she could simply remind him about the presentation but decided against it because she wanted him to “care enough” to either ask or read the email. The big day finally arrived, and her husband didn’.
