DEAR DEIDRE: Discovering my partner had cheated on me while I was pregnant three years ago was crushing. I’ve tried hard to put it behind me but whenever I feel unsure or we argue, my mind returns to that infidelity. He says the unstable state of our relationship is my fault and that I’ll never let it go.
I’m 29 and my partner’s 31. We’ve been together for four years. I was overjoyed when I became pregnant.
I thought he felt the same. But then I noticed he was increasingly secretive with his phone. Get in touch with the Dear Deidre team Every problem gets a personal reply from one of our trained counsellors.
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uk Instead of reassuring me when I questioned his whereabouts too, he became really short-tempered. Being heavily pregnant at the time I felt really vulnerable. I took a quick look at his emails when he went out for a cigarette and I couldn’t believe the sexy messages between him and another woman.
I tried to forgive him for the sake of our son but he regularly accuses me of being weak when I ask for reassurance. He has never apologised for straying. Eventually, I moved out of our family home as the arguments were breaking us.
Having space made me see that I am with a narcissist. I can now see through the manipulation, but I can’t change his b.
