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DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband claims he only joined a sex site because I’ve been neglecting him after work. This feels like a lame excuse — and victim-blaming — and I am so hurt and angry. I am 41 and my husband is 44.

We’ve been married for 20 years and have two boys, aged ten and eight. As I also have a busy full-time job, by the time I get home, cook and see to the children, I have little time or energy left for sex. I thought my husband was happy.



But, lately I’ve begun to suspect he was up to something. He was spending much more time on his phone, withdrawing from me and ignoring the kids. Get in touch with Deidre Every problem gets a personal reply, usually within 24 hours weekdays.

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I decided to go through his phone and found conversations between him and several other women. Some of the messages my husband sent were sexually graphic. When I confronted him, he denied talking to any women.

But I had the screenshots to prove it. With nowhere to hide, he finally admitted it. He said it was only for fun and didn’t arrange to meet any of the women.

Dear Deidre: Understanding why your man's gone off sex And then he had the gall to blame me, saying if we had more sex he’d never have done it. All the trust has gone and I feel I want our marriage to end. He is in denial that anything is wrong and wants me to forgive him and carry on as though nothing has.

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