I was recently reminded of the concept of “The One” when I found an old, long-forgotten list I had titled “Things I Worry About When I Think of My Upcoming Nuptials.” For Number 6, I’d written, “I’ll never meet ‘The One’, ever. It’s over.
This is it. Boo hoo hoo.” I eventually called that wedding off and never revisited the list.
I forgot all about it until I stumbled upon it years later. As I looked at that item, I asked myself, what is this ‘The One’ thing? I realised I now had only a vague memory of a concept that was once very important to me, so I dug out my old journals. Sure enough, I found some interesting things.
In the journal I kept in my late teens and early twenties, I found one entry that caught my attention. My younger self had just started dating a great guy and had never been so happy. She wrote, “If he’s not ‘The One,’ then I don’t know what God is trying to do.
He loves Julia Roberts and Sean Connery, sings to me, wants two daughters, sleeps with the music on, and says things to me like ‘I love you with all my heart and every ounce of my being’ and ‘I adore you, cherish you, and desire you so much it hurts.’” Of course, I rolled my eyes and thought? That’s how we’re supposed to tell who ‘The One’ is? I did truly love him, and we’re still friendly to this day, but we found out during the relationship that we were incompatible. Even now, when it comes to what matters — our values, priorities, and defin.
