If you suspect your relationship partner is having an affair, start thinking seriously about how to deal with it. It doesn’t really matter who initiated it, or how long it’s been going on. What’s needed next requires your inner strength and love; I mean it.
Despite feeling wounded, it’s time to start a conversation — not an angry tirade — about what you two have previously shared together. Remember that cheating is someone’s cop-out. It’s that person’s way of avoiding whatever is going wrong in their core relationship.
So once the affair is discovered, or even suspected, a conversation must ensure wherein your partner must reveal their reasons for cheating on you. You have the right to ask, and it’s wise to start the conversation by questioning what’s changed the other’s mood and/or behaviour. Given the realities of just such matters as infidelity, distancing and diminished connection, along with absence of intimacy in many people’s lives, it’s no surprise relationship therapists are kept busy, and thankfully so.
Meanwhile, for over 30 years, Terrence Real has been talking about the relationship changes needed by so many couples. Real is an American Cambridge senior faculty family therapist and author who guides couples and individuals, bringing along his own teaching team when required, through his innovative work on “The Art of Relational Living” in today’s couples’ lives. “Nothing is more important in our lives than our relationships.
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