My daughter’s best friend’s mom is a lovely person who responds quickly and is easygoing and accommodating when making plans for the girls. Her daughter is always at my house, or my daughter at hers. We share similar parenting values, agreeing on when we think they’re old enough to have a phone, wear makeup, be on TikTok, etc.
However, lately I’ve been noticing that though she is OK with whatever I plan, her go-to is less fun, less exciting — just . The girls have a big party they are planning for their friends from dance and have been working on it for a few months now. They brought us their wish-list, we pared it down and then told them to go for it.
Now my daughter’s BFF’s mom is suggesting we remove half the items from the party. She’s trying to kibosh everything from the food to the decor to the entertainment. And it’s not about the money.
For one, she’s rolling in it. But also, we have very little costs because all the other moms are pitching in. My daughter and her friend are crying to me, and I don’t know how to respond without muttering what I really want to say to this woman out loud.
Help! Call this woman and have a chat. Ask her what has changed since you first went over the party details and agreed on all the things. Is it actually the party that has her knickers in a twist, or is there something else going on in her life that is spilling over? Even though it’s not your business, you may get her to see that she’s projecting, and she may .
