: I was shocked at your response to (March 28), who was frustrated at having to host, feed and entertain her husband’s hunting buddy and his wife several times a year. Related Articles I agreed with your suggestion that she stay elsewhere while these friends stay at her home so her husband will (hopefully) see the light when he’s the one doing the cooking and hosting. But you then made the comment that you can’t believe the friend’s wife doesn’t help with the cooking and entertaining, and how lazy and insensitive she must be.
Abby, did you get caught in a time warp? Why would you think that the hunting buddy gets a free pass from cooking and helping during their stay when is the one receiving all the benefits? And how could you possibly criticize his wife, the innocent bystander? Are you honestly stating that it is to cook and clean for those guys because she’s a woman? I’m hoping you have now returned to the 2020s. I received a lot of criticism for the comment I made at the end of my answer to “Hosted Out” — enough cold water to moisten the noodle I use for self-flagellation. Read on: : I was flabbergasted that you think the wife of the visiting couple deserved more blame than either of the two men.
All three are guilty for allowing this to go on. “Hosted Out” wrote that she doesn’t want to ruin the friendship. Wouldn’t fleeing to a hotel do that kind of damage? When my husband and I host visitors for more than three days, I explain to them early .
