: Eight years ago our daughter was married to an absolutely wonderful guy whom we love like a son. Related Articles Early on in the wedding planning, the groom’s father promised a small sum toward the wedding, which I didn’t expect but thanked him for. We never received it.
My son-in-law’s parents are quite well-to-do so it was not due to an economic shortfall. I’ve been holding a grudge ever since, although my wife has advised me to forget it. Recently, our daughter gave birth to a son, and we immediately offered to take care of expenses toward the circumcision ceremony.
The mother-in-law offered only to bake. They arrived at the ceremony and stood by as we all set up for the party. They watched as we broke everything down.
As we were loading all the gifts and supplies in the car in the pouring rain, the father-in-law handed me a very small gift bag that we forgot and said, “I looked for the smallest thing to help you out!” I was livid! Frankly, I was ready to spend the night in jail! Am I wrong in my feelings? : This guy sounds like a real piece of work. It’s one thing to have different ideas about generosity and labor, as it seems your two families do. (Maybe the baking felt equivalent to them, which is fair.
) But it’s another thing to rub it in. He could have a weird sense of humor or he could relish pushing your buttons. What can we do when someone pushes our buttons? Disable the control panel.
Avoid him when you can but drop the grudge. It’s just souri.
