: You recently ran a question from who was hurt because his adopted daughter wanted to reach out to her biological family members. I would share that knowing the truth about a person’s DNA is vital. When my adult son’s friend “Jack” introduced me to his mother “Janet,” she freaked out.
Memory jogged and, to shorten a very long story, I am Jack’s father. Janet denies it, but I can actually name the date she and I were together – nine months (to the day) prior to his birthday. It has not gone well, but at least the truth is out there.
And truthfully, we have a lot of family health issues Jack should address, or make sure his own daughter is checked for. I know this creates challenges for people, but the truth is the truth. You make very good points, but without DNA testing, it isn’t actually a certainty that you are Jack’s biological father.
As I have often stated, I believe that knowing the truth about one’s DNA is a basic human right. : On this recent Mother’s Day, my 50+ daughter once again asked to bring a new boyfriend to our home for a small family holiday gathering she’d been invited to. We had never met him.
It has been a pattern for her to date someone for only a few weeks, want to bring him to a special family event or holiday, when he is a complete stranger to us, and then break up with him a few weeks later. I have said yes to this in the past, but the situation wasn’t comfortable for me and other family members, including her adult child.
