I can’t imagine being married to someone I don’t work with. But it’s something most people just don’t get. A stranger at a party once blurted out to us: “How are you not divorced yet?!” Friends say: “What do you have to talk about over dinner if you do the same thing?.
” I met Tom at comedy improv class more years ago than I care to remember. At that time, I was a nanny and he was a graphic designer. We had an instant chemistry on stage and off, and making each other laugh in scenes was an easy route to flirting in the pub.
I gave him a lift home from the class and he invited me in to see his new kittens – not a euphemism. One thing led to snogging and that led to booking a venue to do our own show. I sorted the cast.
He designed the flyers for the show, with me leaning over his shoulder in a very un-annoying way. Sexual chemistry and creative spark can be very closely linked. Your heart beats faster while coming up with a great story idea or show title, and your stomach flips while putting stand-up comedy on its feet for the first time.
Making an idea a reality is a rush! When you’re in a romantic partnership with someone who you’re making art with, that can carry you through the dreary domestic years of “What shall we make for dinner? ” – because you turn it into “What shall we dream up while we’re making dinner?” If you’re thinking this sounds like some sort of rom-com bliss, allow me to get into the second act of the movie, where the tro.
