Many years ago, I was on the phone with a good friend throwing shade at my new mother-in-law. I had no idea she had walked in the house with my husband and could hear everything I said. While I went on and on, she turned around and left.
My husband offered to drive her home. When he returned, the proverbial s—- hit the fan. He was livid! Obviously, I was beyond embarrassed and totally apologetic.
I immediately drove over to my mother-in-law’s house with a big bunch of flowers and apologized profusely. She was so gracious that I was even more mortified and ashamed. She ushered me out of her home as quickly as I had entered, and I returned to my husband with my tail between my legs.
He wouldn’t speak to me for the rest of the night, which I had to accept and understand. We’ve made it past that, and my mother-in-law and I have had an exceptional relationship over the course of the past eight years. But lately, something has changed.
I feel as though the old wound is reopening and I’m not sure why. Should I pre-empt it and make mention of the past? Or ride this wave and see what happens? I suggest you speak to your husband and find out if he knows what’s going on. Assuming he’s not gaslighting you, if he says he doesn’t, then ask him what he thinks is the best course of action.
If he does admit to knowing that his mom is reliving the incident, ask him why, and again, what he thinks you should do about it. I’ve been working for an agency for two years. I applied .