We’re four sisters who are all married with children. Two of the husbands are related through their siblings. The two other husbands have been family friends since childhood.
Between us, we have 14 children. When we get together, and add the parents and in-laws, we are 32 and that doesn’t include any of our husbands’ siblings, their partners, and/or their children. Suffice it to say we are a large family! And every time there’s an event, it’s a big deal because we all want to get together to celebrate.
We sisters are very close and would never do anything important without the other three. Now, one of the husbands is requesting a destination event at the same time that one of the sisters is having surgery, and a child of one of the other sisters has a special event. His wife is trying to explain to him that he needs to change the date, but he’s refusing, and they are fighting.
We don’t know what to do to help her in this situation because it’s a big event. They can change the date — it’s not impossible. I think he’s digging his heels in because the operation has been moved twice, and the other event isn’t as important in his opinion.
How can we all get through this amicably? This is a tough situation. There are too many cooks in the kitchen, which is partially the cause of the combustion. You four sisters are tight, and it sounds to me as though you put each other before everyone else.
There’s nothing wrong with that ...
. as long as each of your part.