Seven signs your partner fancies your friend: I'm a relationship counselor and this is how to spot a harmless crush that could escalate By Charlotte Fox Weber and Louise Atkinson Published: 20:35 EDT, 26 May 2024 | Updated: 20:46 EDT, 26 May 2024 e-mail 1 View comments It is perfectly normal for the man in your life to find your friends attractive — and it is equally acceptable for you to secretly fancy the other men in his life. But as a psychotherapist and relationship counsellor I have worked with plenty of couples who found a seemingly harmless crush has escalated to create tension, conflict and has even led to affairs and new relationships which spelt the end of their marriages. My advice is to keep an open mind and to trust the bonds that brought you and your partner together in the first place.
However, pay close attention to your instincts and if some aspect of your relationship has changed or doesn't feel right, and you suspect your partner's feelings for one of your friends may be intensifying, look out for these signs that things may be spinning out of control — and read what to do about it...
He starts to criticise her Listen out for repeated mentions of her name — even in a negative context. Listing her annoying habits and exclaiming with mock irritation 'Can you believe what she's doing?' could indicate that temptation is brewing. The 'tell' is a disproportionate awareness that seemingly comes out of nowhere and his temptation to relate stories about her w.