Some children show signs of perfectionism from early on. Young children might become frustrated and rip up their drawing if it’s not quite right. Older children might avoid or refuse to do homework because they’re afraid to make a mistake.
Perfectionism can lead to children feeling overwhelmed, angry and frustrated, or sad and withdrawn. And yet perfectionism isn’t considered all bad in our society. Being called a “perfectionist” can be a compliment – code for being a great worker or student, someone who strives to do their best and makes sure all jobs are done well.
These seemingly polarised views reflect the complex nature of perfectionism. Researchers often separate perfectionism into two parts: perfectionistic strivings : being determined to meet goals and achieve highly perfectionistic concerns : worry about being able to meet high standards, and self-criticism about performance. While perfectionistic strivings can be positive and lead to high achievement, perfectionistic concerns can lead to a higher chance of children developing eating disorders or anxiety and depression , and having lower academic achievement .
Children and adolescents may experience perfectionism in relation to school work, sport, performance in art or music, or in relation to their own body. Signs of perfectionistic concerns in children and adolescents may include: children being highly critical of themselves their reactions to mistakes seeming to be an overreaction intense preoccupation.