The old adage about assumptions (you know the one—when you , you make an out of and ) will never not be relevant—just thank human nature. But what happens when assumptions go beyond just making someone look bad and actually start..

.messing with our ? Earlier this month, Tinder published its “ ”, a survey of 8,000 18-34-year-old heterosexual men and women across the U.S.

, U.K., Australia, and Canada.

The TLDR: Both men and women want the similar things when it comes to dating and relationships, they just assume the opposite sex wants...

the opposite. Why? Well, damaging stereotypes, for one, said social psychologist at Indiana University . But also, today’s singles are the very first generation to even ! And in a post-pandemic world fraught with screen fatigue and , people are just trying to figure out how to connect, both online and off.

The result: What Tinder is calling the “Assumptions Epidemic.” Everyone’s true are painfully unclear, and it’s making it harder for people to date. For example: 53 percent of men surveyed said they want a romantic relationship, but they think that only 49 percent of women want the same thing.

The truth? That percentage is actually 68. That means that the majority of singles—both men and women alike—want , which is considering that 65 percent of women said they think men are only looking for . (Only 29 percent actually are.

) Another tall (pun intended) misconception: 34 percent of men think women focus on height as a prima.