My wife is so negative, and I just can’t take it anymore. I love her and we have a good relationship. We parent our two children well together and are mostly simpatico in how we feel about life issues.
But lately, she’s becoming more and more negative. We have been trying to purchase a new cottage. Our old family cottage was falling apart so we sold the property, split the profit between myself and my two siblings and are each going our separate ways.
We’ve been in the market for a long time because that sale happened just before COVID-19, and the prices went through the roof. Anyway, every time we find one we like, she mutters incessantly how we’ll lose it to a higher bidder, and then we do, and she goes off on a “told you so” rant. The same thing is starting to happen with our daughter who is applying to several different dance companies.
I can’t take my wife’s negativity. I think it’s affecting everyone. It sounds to me as though your wife is going through an insecure phase.
A possible reason could be her hormonal stage. You didn’t mention her age, but perimenopause can cause some women to feel insecure. She may also be fighting off depression, which often starts with a person feeling negative about everything around them.
Or perhaps this is her way of protecting herself from disappointment. If you have low to no expectations, then when something doesn’t go the way you want, you don’t plunge into despair. It’s hard to know exactly what’s going o.