My husband left me after 20 years of marriage and four children almost five years ago. He admits now that he had a mid-life crisis at the time and wanted to escape all his responsibilities and ties. I was tired of his excuses, lack of ambition, over-enjoyment (in my opinion) of recreational drugs and alcohol anyway, so in all honesty, I was somewhat relieved.
The financial wake-up call of the divorce — selling our home, figuring out how to have two separate homes with enough space for all the children, splitting up our assets, child support, spousal support, etc. — was enough to throw both of us into a pit of despair. We were in the red and going deeper.
I have always had jobs, throughout my parenting role, but managed to work around the children’s schedule. I made enough money to help us with our lifestyle, but not the bread and butter. Unfortunately, his mid-life crisis resulted in being dismissed from his job.
He sank into depression and suffered some health issues. He has happily come out the other side, with renewed energy, fixed health, and a welcome change in his views on now-legal vices. But he’s also starting to court me, and I don’t know how I feel about that.
What are your thoughts? My thoughts don’t matter ...
it’s how you feel that counts. You two have a deep connection — 20 years of marriage and four children — which you will have for the rest of time. Your husband has obviously gone through a personal discovery and mindset shift over the cours.