My best friend is always getting hurt. He is 35 and in great physical shape, though he just put on some weight during his wife’s first pregnancy. He recently went on a run with a group of friends near their home in the country.
He tripped over a root and broke his ankle. Right before the baby was born, he went on a ski trip with some friends, fell into a tree well and broke two ribs. And last fall, he was playing basketball with some friends after work, fell and broke his elbow.
I’m worried about him because that seems like a lot to me. I try to talk to him about it but he brushes me off. I’ve even approached his wife on the matter, but she thinks it serves him right for being so active.
Should I let this go and just watch as my friend continues to repeatedly hurt himself? I’m more concerned with his wife’s response than anything else. It serves him right for being so active? That makes no sense. If he was doing high-risk sports, such as bungee jumping or skydiving, then I could understand her response.
But he’s running and playing basketball. Doesn’t she want her husband to be fit and healthy? Aside from her response, I don’t think you should worry. He’s an adult capable of recognizing that he breaks easily.
You could suggest he see a doctor, perhaps get a bone density test, and ask about osteoporosis. But it’s not your job or responsibility to follow up. I hope he appreciates how much you care.
My boyfriend and my best friend (also a guy) are acting real.