I’ve been with my husband for 20 years and we’ve been married for 15 years. Sex and physical closeness have always been an important part of our relationship. When we started living together, my husband said we should make a pact to always sleep naked because it would keep us close, and help keep romance and passion alive.
I thought it was a great idea at the time and at 25 it was fine and at 35 it still worked, but I’m 45 now and perimenopausal. I’m running around after two kids, while trying to keep my career going, and most nights I just want to get into bed in a pair of comfy pyjamas, put on an eye mask and go to sleep. It’s not that I’ve become prudish or anything, but I suppose I’m just older.
He doesn’t get it, though, in fact he gets really offended and takes it personally, as if I don’t fancy him any more. It’s causing arguments and I think he’s being childish and insecure over something that’s not worth getting worked up over. Do you think I’m right or is he right to feel hurt – I don’t know any more.
I feel we should be able to change things without it being the end of the world and be able to evolve as a couple. I’d love your opinion. I agree that all relationships need the capacity to grow and evolve and I also agree that his reaction seems a bit over the top.
However, he’s obviously seeing this as a big deal because it’s something you’ve always done, and maybe he’s thinking: “Are we on a slippery slope?” I think th.