SWAPPING dirty weekends for dirty nappies has an impact on the sex life of even the most amorous couples. The mental and physical changes of becoming a parent mean that 86 per cent have sex less often since having children, according to a survey by charity Family Lives . Nearly three-quarters also admitted their sex life had taken a turn for the worse since they had kids – and it isn’t just the unrelenting demands of babies and toddlers that's behind the bedroom drought.
The same study found the mums and dads having the least sex are the ones with teenagers, with 23 per cent of that group confessing they hadn’t got intimate in the preceding month. Lack of privacy at home and time away from children was cited as a big factor – with only nine per cent of parents saying they didn’t feel like getting frisky. In her new memoir, published this week, singer Paloma Faith revealed that she felt like a failure when she struggled to be intimate with her now ex-husband Leyman Lehcine after their first child arrived in 2016.
"Nothing for me has been as painful as the first time I had sex postpartum," she wrote in Milf: Motherhood, Identity, Love and F***ery. “I felt guilty because it was by now seven months since I had given birth so thought I should have an obligatory try. “I would say it took nearly two years for me not to feel any pain during sex.
That’s a hell of a long time. It wasn’t erotic at all. “In the end I decided to wince through it.
I wanted to reconnect .