Passionless partners. (Getty Images) DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been together 20 years, married for 12. We have weathered ex-spouses, step-parenting, nine military deployments between us, serious health issues and everyday normal life.
My husband is an infinitely better person than I am, and I have always tried to care for him. We are in our early 40s and recently retired. This year, our children will be out of the house, and we have bought a beautiful home in a dream location for the two of us to start our next adventure together.
I love my husband, but over the last few years, almost everything he says makes me extremely angry or annoyed. I have never felt like this before in our relationship, and I don’t know why this is happening now. No one else makes me feel this way.
I don’t know where to start on addressing the problem. I have told my husband a little bit, and he says he feels like I no longer love him or need him. But, Abby, I do everything for him.
I manage all our bills and finances. I cook three meals a day. I clean the house, the yard and the cars.
I do everything he asks for if he needs help or assistance. I try to always be there if he needs to talk or vent. I stay in shape and available for him.
I don’t know what else to do to make him feel loved and to make my anger go away. Please help. -- MYSTIFIED IN NORTH CAROLINA DEAR MYSTIFIED: I’m not sure your husband is “an infinitely better person” than you are.
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