Dear Haya, Sometimes I feel envious and jealous of other people for their achievements that I have always wanted for myself. I don’t wish bad for them, but it definitely would be nice to also have my dreams and aspirations accomplished. I cannot bear to see them having it all, while I struggle to make a mark.
The feelings often lead me to thinking negatively and often despising these people without even knowing them closely. I feel resentful towards them and seeing them get continued success is really frustrating. Does this make me a bad person? Dear reader, Seeing other people live the life you want can be frustrating.
Having feelings of envy and jealousy doesn’t make you a bad person. Its natural to feel depleted and demotivated and envy and jealousy are natural human emotions that everyone may experience at some point in their lives. What matters is how you manage and respond to these feelings.
Lets break down to see what’s going on and what we can do. First of all, acknowledge your emotions. It's crucial to recognise and accept that you are feeling envious or jealous.
Suppressing or denying these feelings can lead to more intense negative emotions over time. Ask yourself : what’s making me feel this way? Get curious about the root cause. Is it because they have reached there before you? Are there specific areas of your life where you feel inadequate? It’s great to have aspirations and goals but at the same time expectations need to be managed and realistic.
I wo.