mother image via Getty Images Perfectionism can be both obvious and hidden. Here are the different ways it may show up in your life. While the word “perfectionist” is thrown around a lot, it’s a relatable label that makes many of us feel anxious and inadequate.
A study published in Psychological Bulletin found rates of people identifying as perfectionists increased between 1989 and 2016 . And for women of color, being perfect can seem like the only option . But did you know there are actually three types of perfectionists ? To understand yourself and your perfectionism better, figure out which of the three types — self, other or social — you are, as well as how it affects you.
Advertisement Here’s some insight from a therapist and each type of perfectionist. Self-Oriented Perfectionism Self-oriented perfectionism is about expecting the best from yourself. “Some signs of self-oriented perfectionism are being too hard on yourself, feeling burned out or feeling like you or your accomplishments consistently fall short of your expectations,” said Emily Simonian, a licensed marriage and family therapist and the head of learning at Thriveworks in Washington, D.
C. , who specializes in self-esteem issues, depression and anxiety. It can feel especially frustrating because even your best doesn’t feel like enough.
“This type of perfectionism can lead to high levels of productivity, but often, self-oriented perfectionists tell themselves stories about how their achieve.
