RicardoImagen via Getty Images If you're a firstborn daughter who feels overly responsible for your family, friends, colleagues and more, you likely are robbing yourself of some happiness. Are you too responsible for your own good? Are you highly critical of any mistake you make? Are you a perfectionist ? You must be an oldest daughter. All jokes aside, while there are certainly youngest children, middle children and only children who also possess these characteristics, these traits are most closely associated with eldest daughters ― a concept known as eldest daughter syndrome .
A recent study about the topic found that firstborn daughters actually mature faster than other children because of the stress their moms experienced while pregnant. Advertisement That means there is truly something to the popular videos and memes about the struggles associated with being an eldest daughter, which include having to take care of grown-up tasks as a kid , being the one to organize family gatherings, and an inability to ask anyone for help. It’ll come as no surprise to any eldest daughter that this isn’t easy, and it’s likely overwhelming to think about everything that you feel you need to get done.
(Side note: You don’t.) Advertisement If you are looking to feel happier and more fulfilled, therapists say there is one thing that’s standing in the way of your happiness: over-responsibility. According to Natalie Moore , a licensed marriage and family therapist in California, it.
