Asking for a friend: How do you know when you’re ready to have kids? OK, I confess: I’m the friend. Or rather, my husband and I both are. It’s a constant topic of conversation in our house.
Here are our stats: We’ve been married for under two years. I’m 32. He’s 35.
After much deliberation over the seven years we’ve been together, we now very much hope to build a family that includes multiple children. As two career-oriented people enjoying life as newlyweds, the questions have been: When? Are we ready? It’s a big thing to wrap your head around. Especially if, in many ways, you still feel like a kid yourself! When you’re at the starting line, the road ahead seems daunting.
When I turned up at one of RMA of New York’s fertility clinics to see Dr. Lucky Sekhon four months ago, my intention was simply to gather some baseline information about my fertility, not to move forward with any treatments. I’ll be honest: I did not want to freeze my eggs.
The process seemed, frankly, too hard — and painful. And potentially unnecessary given that I’m happily married and a big reason women freeze their eggs is that they are still looking for their life partner, . Rather, we were thinking about how I’d likely be in my mid-30s in my first pregnancy.
I wanted to know: How were my chances looking? And if we want more than one child, what do I need to know about the chances of getting pregnant in my late 30s or early 40s? This is the part of the story I love to share .
