A parent wonders how to get on the same page about parenting styles with their husband. Q. What is the best way for parents to align on parenting styles? And which parenting “style” choices are non-negotiable? I’m already seeing ways my husband and I differ in parenting our 7-month-old.
For example, my husband is annoyed and unresponsive because the baby is “just crying for attention”. I’m expecting disagreements as our son finds his voice and more independence. We grew up in fairly stern households with isolation “time outs” as punishment and (for me) spanking for talking back.
Unsurprisingly, neither of us is great at expressing or talking about feelings . I’m really trying to break that cycle but I am having a tough time knowing where to start. I think my husband would be open to discussion and does care about being a good parent , but I want to make sure we are aligned on a framework for what “good” means that isn’t falling back on parenting like our parents.
I’m not sure my husband would agree his parents’ approach wasn’t good, so I think I need another trusted source of info to lay out a better way. - Looking for a better way.
