This Men’s Health Week, Sinead Corcoran Dye speaks to a relationship expert and three single men about the challenges of dating over 40. It’s common knowledge men should be getting off the couch and working up a sweat for at least 30 minutes a day, going to the GP for a check-up at least once a year and opening up about their mental health with their mates instead of staying silent when they’re feeling down and out. But research has found another area that can seriously impact men’s wellness - living the now-reformed George Clooney-style bachelor life.
New US research indicates single men experience abnormally high rates of loneliness , causing them to feel alienated and isolated. This loneliness is also a risk factor for a range of mental health issues, including depression. The findings also indicate divorced men have a higher rate of mental health issues compared to never-married, separated and widowed men.
Therapist Alexander Terblanche says recognising relationships as a key part of our broader health is crucial. “Improving relational wellbeing can lead to greater happiness and overall health, which is a timely reminder [during] Men’s Health Week.” After David* split from his wife, he tried to invest in self-care as “I knew it was important for mental health”.
The 44-year-old took himself off for a few days alone to “clear his head”. “But I was miserable and spent the whole time chain-smoking, playing everything over and over in my head and feelin.
