Spanking, spitting, a little bit of bondage...
These days, I’d like to think that I’m a pretty confident lover. I consider myself quite lucky in that I have felt comfortable to give such different experiences a go; it has allowed me to figure out what I like and what I don’t like. But I will admit that there have been times where I felt hesitant in speaking up.
Several years ago, a lover of mine, who was both older and more sexually experienced than I was, suggested we try a fantasy of his. To preserve his privacy, I won’t tell you exactly what this kink was but let’s just say it was very niche. I quickly realised that what he wanted was not for me but I hesitated in telling him, because I didn’t want to ruin his experience.
Thankfully, he noticed my shift in body language and less-than-enthusiastic facial expression and asked if I wanted to continue – to which I declined, and he stopped. The lesson this taught me is that I’m happy to experiment but I should have respect for my own boundaries . It also confirmed something that I already knew – consent is paramount at all times, and it is especially important that you pay attention to spoken and unspoken cues during rough or dirty sex.
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