Question: Is there a recipe for happy marriage? Sadhguru: The English expression, “Falling in love,” is significant because you don’t rise in love, you don’t fly in love, you don’t walk in love, you don’t stand in love. You fall in love, because something of who you are has to go. It essentially means someone else has become far more important than yourself.
Only if you don’t think too much of yourself, you can be in love. When what you consider as “me” falls, a deep experience of love can happen within you. Embrace and Understand The closer the relationship with someone is, the more effort you should make to understand them.
Someone becomes closer and dearer to you only as you understand them better. If they understand you, they enjoy the closeness of the relationship. If you understand them better, then you enjoy the closeness.
If you are expecting the other to understand and comply with you all the time while you don’t understand the limitations, possibilities, needs and capabilities of that person, then conflict is all that will happen. In everyone, there are some positive and some negative aspects. If you embrace all this in your understanding, you can make the relationship the way you want it.
If you leave it to their understanding, it will become accidental. If they are very magnanimous, things will happen well for you. If not, the relationship will break up.
It is not that the other person is totally bereft of understanding. With your understanding.
