First impressions, as they say, count for a lot. Perhaps nowhere is this truer than on Hinge , Bumble, Tinder , Feeld and Christian Mingle, where fumbling your opening gambit can give way to eternal silence. If you’re struggling to make your way into free-flowing conversation, it might be time to reconsider your approach – or more specifically, your opening line.
Blaine Anderson , a dating coach who has helped thousands of men get out of their dating slump, says it’s best to steer clear of generic openers. Unsurprisingly, ‘hey what’s up?’ or ‘how was your weekend?’ is unlikely to get you noticed. “Women are getting way more matches than men,” Anderson explains.
“So, the struggle for guys is: how do you stand out?” Anderson says it’s best to avoid complimenting someone on their physical appearance as an opener. “Telling her ‘you’re beautiful’ is referencing something that she doesn’t necessarily have any choice in,” she says. “And, if she truly is beautiful, she's been hearing that from men for years – so it doesn't accomplish standing out.
” Instead, try giving her a compliment that she’ll actually appreciate. “If you're like, ‘you have amazing style. Or, ‘those are cool sneakers – I'm a sneakerhead,’ then you're complimenting her on something that she's chosen for herself, and also showing her something about you – either that you respect style, or that you’re into sneakers .
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