Dear Annie: My son and I had a falling out a few years ago, right about the time he got engaged and was planning his wedding. I was blamed for not treating his fiancee nicely because I was once impatient at a dress shop. I bent over backward to be nice to her.
The straw that broke the camel’s back was at Easter, when I finally said something about the fact that his father and I basically were being ignored. That caused us to have a big blowup. He accused me of not supporting him when he was growing up.
He said I favored his sister and didn’t spend enough time with him growing up. He said that I did not give money for their wedding and that I was constantly negative. I don’t deny the negativity I was giving when he was growing up; I was a young mother learning as I grew up with my children.
I don’t deny that I could be pessimistic, but I look at it as being realistic. Yes, I have said some not-so-nice things to him, and as I look back, I know that I shouldn’t have said them. However, I wasn’t even invited to the wedding, but his father was.
Talk about a blow to the heart. My husband tried to be the peacemaker and talk to our son. He asked what I would need to do to get a second chance.
I apologized for the things I said and did, but nothing seems to be enough. Eventually, my husband told him that he would not attend the wedding unless I was attending. I was allowed to attend as long as I didn’t cause problems, not that I would have, and he refused to have a mothe.
