My youngest son (my baby!) had a horrible breakup last year. Related Articles I still hate her and sob-yelled during an Alanis Morrissette concert to “You Oughta Know.” Yes, I sob-yelled in public.
Cue shame. And righteousness. Hate is powerful.
Said son is adorable, nice, has a great job that he loves, etc. Yet, he won’t date. Let’s be clear: I need grandchildren from this boy.
He’s the best one of the bunch (don’t tell the others). How do I encourage him to get out there without actually saying those words? Or do I just adopt more cats as my grandchildren? : Cats. As I vividly recall from the Morrissette-fueled sob-yell periods of my youth, the chorus of “You Oughta Know” includes the line “I’m here to remind you of the mess you left when you went away.
” Alanis would no doubt remind us that getting over any breakup, particularly a horrible one, can be a long, grueling experience. There’s a rule of thumb that posits it takes half the length of a relationship to get over the end of said relationship. But don’t go running to your calendar to circle some due date in your son’s future.
His mileage will vary. This process is his own to create and he is currently taking the time he needs to heal. You know how hard it was for you to get over the breakup – indeed, it seems like you’re still working through it – so imagine what a mess he’s left cleaning up in his own heart and psyche.
The last thing you want is for him to jump into a rebound relati.
