Dear Amy: My boyfriend and I have been together for five years. His late wife was a wonderful woman. They were together for 30 years before her sudden death.
He still has a copy of their wedding photo on the wall in the bedroom we share. I am not happy about it. I expressed my concerns, however it is still up.
What should I do? Do you think he is still grieving? — Concerned Dear Concerned: Grief isn’t an all-or-nothing state, but tends to walk through a person’s daily life. Grief ..
. passes through. You’ve expressed your concerns about having this photo in your bedroom (and I can see why that would be a concern), but you don’t seem to have offered any alternatives.
Is there another place in the house where the photo could be integrated into a larger story of your guy’s life, featuring other photos from your pasts, as well as those of your shared life? I hope you’ll make some reasonable suggestions. Dear Amy: “Want to Help” was feeling awkward about how to help a family member diagnosed with cancer. When I was diagnosed (stage three), it seemed as if everybody became tongue tied.
Those who asked, “Is there anything I can do to help?” usually never wound up being helpful, only because I had a hard time asking for what I needed. However, I guarantee that if someone point-blank asked, “When can I pick up your laundry?” I would have been so relieved. I say, hold the hand that needs to be held and wipe down the counter covered in crumbs – or the cheek co.
