: I recently discovered that my husband was messaging and talking to three women through the dating portion of Facebook. I saw messages on his phone from one woman. I also noted that he had a phone call with her that lasted for 44 minutes.
I confronted him about this and he said he was trying to learn how to communicate – and that he was not cheating. I decided that if he thought this was OK, then it should be OK for me, too. I started my own profile on Facebook Dating.
My husband did not like the attention I was getting, and he shut down his activity and ended all communication with other women. I also ended mine. We have a great intimate relationship, but I’m still hurt and I don’t trust him.
We have been through a lot over the past 28 years. Do you have any advice? Well, it looks as if your husband learned how to communicate. You received his message – loud and clear – and sent him back a message of your own.
I think it would be great if you two actually put your messages into words. You might start by sending him a private message on your favorite social media platform, sincerely inviting him to an intimate dinner. You might even use the terrifying phrase, “Honey, we need to talk.
” And then do that. Talk. You two have been playing a fairly dangerous game, daring one another and leveraging your long and loving relationship in the process.
I suggest that you reveal to him how this episode has made you feel. Talk about your feelings, and invite him to talk abou.
